Addicted to Love? Or Is It Limerence?
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Falling in love is a heady experience. Life can go from gray tones to technicolor in days.
If you’ve been in a depressed slump, experiencing a huge life transition or a big loss, the rush of euphoric oxytocin/dopamine and other neurotransmitters can make you feel amazing, until - it stops feeling so great. But…is it the real person or the feeling of being in love that you love?
When you realize that despite your best efforts, you ACTUALLY can’t stop thinking about this other person even if you want to - whether or not it is even a good/rationale/sane idea to try to be with them, you may also realize you may need some help getting out of this.
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Healing The Heartbreak Of Limerence
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In the aftermath of limerence, there is the void — the empty space where you are caught in the in between of the fantasy (of who you thought or imagined the person to be or your relationship) and the reality. You will find yourself grieving not only the fantasy parts of the limerence and your LO (love object), but all of the POSSIBILITIES and the HOPE.
You may go through all of the stages of grief and loss
Read MoreFood For Love: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation
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All love stories start out with the big three: Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation.
In reciprocated, mutualing-falling-in-love love stories, the Hope, Fantasy and Anticipation trifecta create the exciting beginning stage or “honeymoon” phase. But what if there are obstacles? What if the one you love isn’t available, or worse, you’re not sure if they feel the same way? Falling in love is a natural progression and a natural state of being, but….
Love doesn’t really seem to care if you’re already married or committed…Or if the one you love is. Or if they give you mixed signals….
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